Angie “Rockstar” Lantry didn’t win Big Brother (#BB20), but she is winning at co-parenting. In a blog post called Co-Parenting she writes:
Here is the thing about divorce with kids, you are still family. You will always be family…Your children love both of you. You are both their family.
You chose to have children together.
My Ex-husband and I talk often about school, behavior, and feelings…Sometimes we share holidays and vacations. We camp on the same grounds, my partner and I have the kids part of the time and my Ex-husband comes to take them to some activities. Some things we do ALL together. We also have our own individual time with the kids. The kids know that we as parents ALL (including my partner) maintain communication.
It is totally worth the work, because it provides balance and stability to your children. NEVER… I repeat NEVER bash the other parent in front of the kids. NEVER bash the other parent on social media.
As long as that other parent is loving toward your child, it is in the best interest of the child to have them involved. If you hold the child from their other parent, or speak bad about the other parent, as they grow that child will resent you.
Jealousy, bitterness, anger, will get you nowhere in a healthy co-parenting scenario. Drop those emotions like the bad habits they are. This isn’t about you, this is about your kids and what is best for them.
Do it for yourself, as a parent you need all the teamwork you can get. Do it for your kids, allow them to have as much love in their lives as possible.
Read the entire entry here.
Thank you, Angie, for your wise words.